No one is responsible for stopping someone else use abuse and violence. The person using violence is the only person responsible for that violence – and they need to get help.
If you are worried about your behavior in your relationship, find out more about how to stop using abuse and violence here.
If you have a friend or family member that you are worried might be using violence and abuse in their relationship, talking to your friend may help them change their behaviour. If you have a friend or family member that you are worried might be in an abusive relationship, there are lots of things you can do to help.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is abusive to you, it can be helpful to make a safety plan around what to do to reduce risks of emotional or physical violence. You may well know when your partner is most likely to be violent or abusive, and how they act during these times because you know your relationship best. You can make a safety plan with a friend, a counsellor, or a helping agency.
If you write your safety plan down, hide it so your partner can’t find it. You could leave it with a friend or family member, or at work in a safe place. These are some things you may want to consider:
- If you are living with someone using violence and abuse
- If you are leaving an abusive relationship
- After you have left an abusive relationship